Am I wrong to take people at their word?

It seems like when I actually take people at their word, I end up getting screwed over. When I was with my wife it would always happen. For instance, we would make a tentative plan, say, Saturday afternoon we'll go do such and such. Then come Saturday afternoon it would either be, "Oh, I don't really feel like doing that" or "I'm not feeling well." The I'm not feeling way thing is understandable, it happens ... but it happened all the time.

And now more recently, with one of me new friends it seems to be happening too. We'll talk, and say ok we'll meet up in an hour, then an hour and 20 minutes later I get a call saying "I'm not feeling well, I'll give you a call in a bit." I feel bad even complaining because it always works out fine and I enjoy spending time with these people, but still, how does it happen that within 1 hour of making plans you suddenly don't feel good? I just don't get it.

I mean, I flake sometimes or show up late, but whenever this happens I end up getting screwed over because I have this plan in my head and then it falls through and I've wasted my time.

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